International Byron Society

Dear friends,
I am reading , biographies and books of letters trying to understand what he felt for Annabella. I would like to share this with you all and pleaase let me have your opinion because there are very different versions in the different books I have - well..... taking into consideration my level of english understanding -
As far as I understand he got married not very "convinced" and as I have seen in those books the marriage for him was something like a prision. She pretended to introduce him to her friends and organizing dinners at home that he had always refused. Maybe a much clever woman would have dealt this situation in another trying to adap herself to his way as married to a genious but it could be she was too young to do it.
This marriage was something like terrible for her and then her family decided to send a letter of separation.
From there Byron gets into this period of headaches, too much alcohol and laudanoum...
My surprise is that I have found a letter written by him from Milan, when he was already in the exile, saying that no other human being would have suffered more than him during the separation and tha he loved her and LOVE her....
Your opinion is going to be great for me...
HAPPY NEW YEAR FOR YOU ALL FROM SPAIN
Almudena

We shall never truly know, though I think the truth is that Byron did love her in a way, but he was not suited to the 'idea' of marriage, or able to tame his desire for fresh experiences.

New and fresh experiences can be addictive, and that maybe where the problem lay.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=UDorNilxP ... annel_page

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Well, I think that on some level, and at some point, Byron must have cared for Annabella. One does not propose marriage to any and every person one meets, even if one is Byron. The only other person he offered to marry was Teresa Guiccioli, and that says something --- he did love Teresa at one point. And it was not just a single proposal either : Byron actually proposed twice, with Annabella refusing him the first time and accepting the second proposal. I know that there is an ongoing debate about whether or not he intended the second proposal as a proposal of marriage, but clearly it had something to do with courtship leading up to marriage, otherwise why should Annabella assume that he was again asking her to marry him, and why should Byron feel himself honour bound --- as we know he did --- to keep his word and marry her? So yeah, I think that Byron did feel something for Annabella, at least for a time, though whether to call it "love" I don't know.

Hello lucky you in Spain, and there's a new book by Edna O'Brien called Byron in Love. I've ordered it and if anyone can get to the bottom of it she can! Will let you know....
Beverley

Dear All,

To judge from the reviews, Edna O'Brian's book tell you more about her than it does about Byron - and likewise with Benjamin Markovits. You cannot avoid taking sides and this tends to damn your efforts in the eyes of The Other Side!

WOOF WOOF!

BOATSWAIN'S MATE

I would say byron became easily bored in relationships the case with many people, Maybe he just liked the thrill of the a new relationship, I read very little that is written about him these days The last book The kindness of sisters by David Crane, left me wondering what it was all about. I think entry in the diary of Lady coffin Greenly who met Byron on one of his visits to eywood gives a true picture she says in December Lord Byron was again at Eywood . His countenance was not to me a pleasing one. I never felt easy in his company. His eye gave me more the idea of the poets in a fine frenzy rolling" than any i ever beheld, but it had no sort or gentle expression.Lady Greenly was a friend of the countess of Oxford and lived close by she attended many of the balls and tea parties held at Eywood She writes about a ball at Ey wood where a party of 24 remained the next day, All the beds were full and Lady oxford said she had guarded against any mistakes by having the name of the occupier written on the door Lord Byron slept in no 10. Going by a Sale catalogue of 1895 he might have slept in a massive 6ft brass bed with a spring mattress and a hair mattress, if the same bed was still their,

B was interested in her,intrigued by her,emotionally linked at her for some time,even thought of himself of being attached to her,he was somehow under her sway (as he used to be with all women at the very end),he had a never openly admitted respect for her and her multiple skills
but I think he never really loved her.

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It all comes down to motive - why did B. marry her?

Was it for her money, and the prospect of inheriting the Wentworth estates from Annabella's mother Lady Noel?

Otherwise why keep pursuing her?